In 2005 Stephanie Tolan created a presentation for what was then the Counseling and Guidance Division of the National Association for Gifted Children, to give adults (counselors, teachers, parents) working with gifted children a method of empowering children (and themselves) to cope with the difficult educational and life experiences they so often encounter. She called the method Story Principle, and titled the presentation, “Change Your Story, Change Your Life.” A shorter version was printed in Gifted Education Communicator and is available below.
As Tolan began speaking about Story Principle to other audiences—to writers, librarians and teachers outside the field of gifted education—she was continually asked to expand on the idea and to provide practical ways to use Story Principle in daily life.
She decided to take on that project. The result was the writing of a book also titled Change Your Story, Change Your Life, and the creation of www.StoryHealer.com, where Story Principle is introduced, an excerpt can be read or downloaded, and examples are given of “Stories That Work,” from people who have begun putting the principle to work in their lives. In addition, the book can be downloaded in its entirety as a free PDF file under a Creative Commons license.
- Out of Sync, Essays in Giftedness
- Stephanie S. Tolan set out as a concerned mother to help her highly gifted son have a school experience that matched his intellectual ability and pace of learning. In the process, she became an advocate for gifted children and, as a founding member of the Columbus Group, played a major part in reshaping thinking about giftedness itself.
Her essay "Is It a Cheetah?" is justly renowned for its power and worldwide influence. Other essays deal with spirituality, the problem of pain, self-esteem and the gifted adult, imagination, and intuition.
Here, collected for the first time, are her essays and talks that are now part of the fabric of the most advanced thinking about gifted people.
- An Open Letter to Parents, Teachers and Others: From Parents of an Exceptionally Gifted Child
- Guiding the Gifted Child Chapter 13, which I co-wrote with James Webb and Elizabeth Meckstroth in 1982
- Change Your Story, Change Your Life
- National Association of Gifted Children (NAGC) conference presentation,
of Books about Gifted and Highly Gifted Children
- Guiding the Gifted Child
- Gifted Psychology Publishing Co., 1982 -- co-author.
- The Problem of Pain
- Revised, originally published in the
Education Communicator (California Association for the Gifted), Volume 31,
No. 4, Fall 2000.
- Spirituality and the Highly Gifted Adolescent
- Highly Gifted Children, Spring, 2000.
Self-Esteem and the Gifted Adult
- Advanced Development Journal, 1999.
- You Can't Do It Wrong
- Written for the parents of the Davidson
Young Scholars Pilot Group June, 1999.
Over-excitabilities: A Layman's Explanation
- February, 1999.
- Giftedness - Nature or Nurture
- OAGC Review, January 1988.
- Phoning Home
- OAGC Review, Spring 1997.
- Is it a Cheetah?
- Highly Gifted Child, Spring, 1997 (Reprinted in OAGC Newsletter, Fall,
- Beginning Brilliance
- Chapter 11 in The Young Gifted Child: Potential and
Promise, Joan Smutny, editor, Hampton Press, Inc., 1996.
- Discovering the Gifted Ex-Child
- Roeper Review, August 1994. (Reprinted in Journal of Advanced Development,
- Response to the Federal Report on Gifted Education
- Roeper Review, June/July 1994.
- Giftedness as Asynchronous Development
- Tip Network News, Spring 1994.
- Ridi Pagliaccio
- The Day My Father Died: Women Share Their Stories of Love, Loss, and Life, Running Press 1994.
- Psychomotor Overexcitability: An Expanded Perspective
- Journal of Advanced Development, 1994.
- Parents vs. Theorists
- Roeper Review, August 1992.
- Sex and the
Highly Gifted Adolescent
- Highly Gifted Children, Spring 1992.
- Only a Parent
- Understanding Our Gifted, Jan-Feb. 1992.
- School Reform, or How to Make Democracy a Dirty Word
- Highly Gifted Children, Fall 1991, Spring 1992.
- Kids, Books and World Peace
- USIBBY Newsletter, Fall 1991.
- Curiosity Cancelled
- The Bookmark, New York State Libraries, Fall, 1990.
- Helping Your Highly Gifted Child
- ERIC Flyer File on Gifted Students, 1990.
- Eventually, There’s College
- Highly Gifted Children, Spring, 1990.
- From Production to Nurturing, Hollingworth and Parental Perspectives Today
- Roeper Review, March 1990.
- Special Problems of the Highly Gifted
- Understanding Our Gifted, May 1989.
- The Reading Room
- (regular column) Understanding Our Gifted, 1988-1995.
- Happily Ever After
- The New Advocate, December 1988.
- Parents and 'Professionals', A Question of Priorities
- Roeper Review, February 1987.
- A Writer's Response
- Horn Book, May/June 1986.
- Stuck in Another Dimension:
The Exceptionally Gifted Child in School
- Gifted Child Today, Nov./Dec. 1985.
- Moral Imperatives
- The Advocate, Spring,1985
- Stop Accepting, Start Demanding!
- The Gifted Child Monthly, January 1985.